Routines and Success

Before Everett was born, Deona and I had conversations regarding routines and the importance of consistency for children. We agree that children develop a sense of responsibility in that they know exactly what is required of them. We both believe inconsistencies lead to a number of problems because of the messages it sends.

Since moving to our new home, we have been deliberate in making sure Everett tidy's up his room before going to bed; not because we're against having a messy room but because we'd like him to feel a sense of responsibilty for all his stuff. This week I am most proud, as I feel Everett truly understands this routine and his responsibilty to his toys, room and self.

Our evening routine:

9:00-9:30 We announce, "It's time to clean up". Everett turns off his television, then starts putting his toys in the bins. I absolutely LOVE that he has a method. For instance, when he packs up his trains, he is careful that all the train cars are standing up right, side by side, in their basket, before placing them on the appropriate shelf in the closet.

Funny story: This week Everett loaded his basket with trains and carefully carried them towards their shelf. Half way there, the basket tips and all the trains fall out. Patient little Ev, sits down, reloads them one by one; all standing upright in perfect uniformity. Everett stands back up, grabs both basket handles, walks slow-motion, hunched over, as if this technique might help prevent the basket from tipping again. :) Sweet success!

After all his toys are picked up and high-fives are exchanged, we announce, it's time for a diaper change and pajamas. When reminded, "It's time to brush your teeth", Everett runs to his bathroom. He also understands how to "rinse", "dry" and "put up" his toothbrush.

Keeping routines with Everett has not come easy, but am convinced the reason for bedtime successes. Everett understands at bedtime, its time to cover up, hug Pooh Bear, and close his eyes; he does this without struggle or ever getting upset. We are so proud.